let’s talk about about reality – you mean, what I say matters?
OK. Let’s talk about accountability for a moment. In other words, that alien
concept that among other things, what you say is supposed to reflect even a
little bit what you mean. I know, not a popular concept in the world today –
but it is one I usually try and live by.
We all know people who live in a world of illusion. The kind of person who
will be complimentarily in public or when speaking to you, and then will spend
the next few days or hours badmouthing you to anyone they meet. To people like
this, there seems to be only one sin – to actually hold them to what they say.
Think about it. Honesty is the antithesis of every tool they use in their daily
lives. They live and breath in the margins – and they can exist only as long
as people are to polite to actually take them to task.
You know the type… they will insult someone in the most outlandish way then
blink their eyes and go "What? I can’t imagine where you got the idea I
was insulting you! I guess you will just always think ill of me…".
They count on the fact that almost no one will say "Well, we think that
because you, you know, said it.".
They absolutely depend on people saying "Wow, I didn’t mean to hurt your
feelings!"
Fat chance. Not this kid. I call it like I see it. I really don’t have much
room for the holier than thou innocent act.
So, on to the matter at hand. Some one I know (and in an odd way consider a
friend) and I were having a discussion and it came up that this person was specifically
out to make someone else we know’ miserable. When the opportunity presented
itself, they did just that – tried their best to fuck ’em up.
So far, no problem.
Then they got called on it… and they went into an innocent act.
So >I< called em on it.
Suddenly ::shrugs:: I am a bad person. So be it. I can be a bad person. If
being a bad person is calling someone on a lie then I can live with that.
The most amazing part of it was the way they tried to manipulate ME. "I
will never share anything with you again". Right. Like they and I were
confidants. As if suddenly we were trading secrets – even though I know that
this person speaks badly of me and my motives when they feel like it.
See the pattern? I am not supposed to call them on that. I am supposed to pretend
like I violated a confidence from someone who trusted me. Bullshit. I am supposed
to get all upset like I wounded a puppy. Bullshit again.
Spare me. Don’t try and play like we were best pals when you’re busy stabbing
me in the back. It’s insulting.
Honesty works. Try it ๐