Ok, I'll play…

Normally the household here runs fairly smoothly. In fact one of the things I love about our little family these days is that even when we disagree or emotions get bruised we pretty much keep our shit in line. That wasn’t always true and I think it says a lot about all of us that we are this strong. Occasionally we make decisions the others don’t like and we vent or deal as the situation and protocol warrants. Hell, I piss them off constantly but then again that’s the beauty of being a Daddy.

Imagine my surprise then as I was doing some of my daily information grazing and realized that some feathers were ruffled. I tell you it completely interrupted my viewing of “Cum Fart Cocktails #5” and as you can see from the screenshot I was kind of enjoying it so now that my groove is gone I’ll take a moment to comment.

Now both of the girls have been great on their blogs. I don’t want this to come off as a “shut down” notice, because it isn’t. But if we are going to be blogging about it I will add my two cents in here, and I will be quite a bit less cryptic. I will try not to be mean which is out of character but I am in a good mood.

Here’s the background. The world is full of drama. This is not helped by the fact that it is full of people who live on drama. They thrive on it. It is a source of power for them. We live in a society that has raised victimhood to sainthood and there are a whole lot of people who like that. I talk about it all the time at Herdwatching but it is an important concept interpersonally as well. We all know people who will work hard to try to help themselves, but never seem to work hard enough to actually help. The people who struggle valiantly and make a big show of it so you can feel sorry for them. Hell, most of them don’t even know they do it on purpose.

Short story? Kimiko is spending a lot of energy on someone like that. Tatsumi is angry and protective of our house because dammit we have enough trouble of our own without importing professional victims and the attendant drama. Kimiko for her part is just a nice person and not sure what all the fuss is about. The person in question? Probably a nice person but has betrayed our trust in a big way and is lucky Kimiko is spending even a moment on them.

Me? Well I am giving Kimiko a chance to learn a valuable lesson. She has not really ever been consciously aware of being manipulated through guilt and pity before. I am sure it has happened but this is the first time that it has happened since she has been mature enough to see it for the weapon it is. I want her to learn that lesson. it is an important one.

The lesson is simple: Some people refuse to be saved. They will scream for help and then simply climb on your back and drag your ass under all the while screaming that it’s your fault they had to go out in a rubber raft during a hurricane because you hurt their feelings.

So Kimiko has a little leeway so she can learn her lesson. Tatsumi is having to trust my judgement for not shutting it down and I am keeping an eye on things. Write it down kiddies, this will not become a threat to my house or my people.

In the meantime we laugh about it, we stress about it and we might even fight about it a little but it isn’t a serious issue because frankly it isn’t important enough to be one.

And that is all there is to say.

p.s. I will be pleased as hell if it turns out I am wrong. I am all for people getting their shit together and keeping it together. Hell, I might even buy a beer and a meal to apologize.