Another day, another topic in FetLife. Since my previous post there today got trashed, I’ll put this one here for safe keeping. This one is in response to a thread about “safe calls”.
If you want to have one and it will make you feel better – go for it. For many people the illusion of safety is all they really want – this is one of the reasons the "SSC" mantra takes root so deeply.
Style over substance.
How about this for a radical concept – if you don’t trust someone, don’t be in a position where you NEED to trust them. I know… shocking.
I am also pretty amused when I see folks take crazy levels of precautions when meeting someone for a BDSM "date" who will go home with someone they picked up in a bar without any of the same safeguards. Apparently when there is a flogger in the room it’s all just so much more dangerous.
Me? I have never been insulted when someone tells me they want to arrange a safecall – I simply refuse the meeting. They are welcome to take all the time they need to decide if they trust me or not – but I have no intention of meeting them with they sword of Damocles over my head because some friend of theirs jumped the gun.
Further, I have no intention of providing the level of information some of these people ask for. Hell, if you want to be an identity theif it’s easy – put up a hot picture on alt.com and then get the idiot "Dom" to give you his social security number so you can "feel safe" 🙂
To be honest, I don’t need to meet you that bad. If you haven’t decided to trust me enough to even MEET me without holding my entire life hostage then we don’t have any reason to meet at all.
Then again, they tell me I’m bad for women so that’s probably factors in 🙂