{"id":2127,"date":"2004-05-29T05:13:56","date_gmt":"2004-05-29T05:13:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.soulhuntre.com\/items\/date\/2004\/05\/29\/i-love-the-word-bitchslap\/"},"modified":"2004-05-29T05:13:56","modified_gmt":"2004-05-29T05:13:56","slug":"i-love-the-word-bitchslap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/legacyiamsenseiken.local\/2004\/05\/29\/i-love-the-word-bitchslap\/","title":{"rendered":"I love the word “bitchslap”…"},"content":{"rendered":"
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StudlyDom: I made my point, and I’ll make it a point to bitchslap you at a TES meeting if front of your cronies, and see if you have the convistion of your words.<\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Someone threatened to beat me up! It’s so cute!<\/p>\n

So as I was working a little while ago I had a room open on AOL<\/a>. It’s one way to keep a finger on the pulse of the community and to see if anyone is talking about [[TES Fest]] in the aftermath. The discussion came up about weight, the overweight and the obese. Over the course of the discussion a dom from NYC who has apparently had a variation of [[wp:gastric bypass]] surgery got himself all bent out of shape.<\/p>\n

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Apparently he says we “belong to the same bdsm group, and frequent the same clubs” <\/i>so I figure he might be a TES member. Honestly? Even looking at the picture I can’t place him and I haven’t ever heard his name offline I remember so we are talking kind of small fish here.<\/p>\n

Anyway, in the end he snapped. He was all upset because I dared to make some comments on the topic of weight and metabolism… I have cleaned up my spelling, and realize that while these are in order they are only my comments…<\/p>\n

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SoulHntre: As with so many other issues, that extremely small percentage of people with real problems legitimizes the much larger group of people who think they have the problem, and use it as an excuse.<\/i><\/p>\n

SoulHntre: The basic reality stays the same… eat the right intake for your metabolic rate and you will lose or maintain, eat too much and you gain.<\/i><\/p>\n

SoulHntre: Again, with the extremely rare exception of someone with sever metabolic issues, being overweight is a problem of diet and exercise.<\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Now, things went wrong for a number of reasons – not least of which were…<\/p>\n

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  1. This guy couldn’t grasp that we were discussing more than the morbidly obese.\n
  2. This guy couldn’t accept that even though the morbidly obese have a huge relapse rate that doesn’t mean they can’t lose weight and in fact may indicate that weight loss is possible, though difficult.\n
  3. This guy simply wasn’t reading anything anyone else had to say. Notice that each time I commented I discussed that there were exceptions… but that isn’t enough for him.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    In the interests of not inflaming the situation I have changed this guys name. I do this because my Sensei has always told me that when a conflict can be avoided, do it. Hopefully by giving this guy a chance to cool off and not broadcasting what an idiot he came off like he will realize his chosen course of action is a bad idea. I am putting this up here both for the amusement of others and as a sort of reminder to myself that if someone jumps me in an ally I might want to remember this guy and see if he is the one we need to mention to the police. The actual jumping part doesn’t bother me, I can deal with him easily enough, it’s all the paperwork afterwards that I would rather avoid.<\/p>\n

    I will call him StudlyDom. I have also decided not to post his picture here, or the links to his writings on the web – there aren’t that many of them and they aren’t all that important anyway. So StudlyDom finally loses it and comes out with these little gems… they are in order, but there is room chatter in between I cut out.<\/p>\n

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    StudlyDom: if you dont stop lumping the overweight with the obese, I swear to god I’m gonna kick your skinny closeminded selfrighteous ass all over NY<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: trust me, I will… you can count on it<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: I made my point, and I’ll make it a point to bitchslap you at a TES meeting if front of your cronies, and see if you have the convistion of your words.<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: no Soul… this goes WAYYY beyond a chatroom. you made this personal.<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: I threatened to confront you, face to face, to test your convistions. let’s see if you’re up for it, big man.<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: belle, we belong to the same bdsm group, and frequent the same clubs. it’s not a cyber threat. and I dont threaten, I state facts.<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: nope, they wont know anything. all that will be proven is that you’re a pompous pussy, and I’ll feel great satisfaction proving it.<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: nope, I’ll prove what a man you arent. big diifference.<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: Soul, I just want you to make the same pompous bullshit statements to my face that you made in the safety of an aol chatroom.<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: and many Doms are Doms from inherent low self asteem, and overcompensate to feel some sens of self worth.<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: we’ll have to see what catagory you fall into… I’m sure your TES buddies will be impressed<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: track you down? at a public BDSM event? you seem a bit… apprehensive? justification? backpedaling?<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: nope Soul, i get to prove you arent the Man you try to portray… and I will take ggreat pleasure in that<\/i><\/p>\n

    StudlyDom: next time you want to play pompous idiot, dont do it with someone from the neighborhood.<\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

    My final comment on the topic?<\/p>\n

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    SoulHntre: Well, drop by any time SD. We’ll see if you have the balls to actually introduce yourself or if you just pipe me in a stairwell like a pussy <\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

    Sheesh. Why do I attract all the whackos?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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