{"id":507,"date":"2000-10-13T18:58:04","date_gmt":"2000-10-13T18:58:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.soulhuntre.com\/items\/date\/2000\/10\/13\/abuse-and-victims-this-is-gonna-piss-you-off\/"},"modified":"2000-10-13T18:58:04","modified_gmt":"2000-10-13T18:58:04","slug":"abuse-and-victims-this-is-gonna-piss-you-off","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/legacyiamsenseiken.local\/2000\/10\/13\/abuse-and-victims-this-is-gonna-piss-you-off\/","title":{"rendered":"abuse and victims – this is gonna piss you off"},"content":{"rendered":"
Without a doubt, this entry is not going to make me many friends. I would like to introduce you to a victim of the victim culture. Someone who’s life has been destroyed NOT by what happened to her… but by how she has been taught she should react<\/i> to what happened to her.<\/p>\n
I’ll tell you the story<\/a> in the short form, at age six this girl was touched three or four times by an older cousin. He may have made her touch him during that time. He did not beat or penetrate her, he did not threaten her, he did not force her to have sex with him.<\/p>\n \u201cAnd then to sit on his lap. And then he touched me. All it took was one finger to rob me of my innocence. It happened more than once. It happened for three or four consecutive Saturdays in a row. He would touch me, force me to touch him.\u201d – the full story<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Should it have happened? No.<\/p>\n In a perfect world, would it have happened? No.<\/p>\n So let’s follow the story along a bit… at the time, she felt nothing odd about the experience. At fifteen she starts recovering memories of the incident, and her life starts going to hell.<\/p>\n \u201cIt had really happened to me. I was a victim of Childhood Sexual Abuse. I remember the day I came to this conclusion. I was in the shower, and I had just had another memory resurface. I knelt down on the shower floor and wept. I couldn’t believe it. I had a perfect childhood, the abuse notwithstanding. Why me?\u201d – the full story<\/a> <\/p><\/blockquote>\n Notice what she is upset about there… not the event itself really, but the idea<\/i><\/b> of the event. The lost illusion of some mythical idea of a perfect childhood and the now firm belief that she is a victim … and we all know how victims are supposed to act, they fall to pieces right? Because no one could possibly be expected to live with such a burden… right?<\/p>\n Now, I don’t know this person from a passing car – and I have no idea what the circumstances of these ‘memories’ were during her recovering of them – but I do know that "False Memory Syndrome" is real… and that a situation like this does fit that profile. Is the memory real? I am not sure – and I don’t think it matters to my point…<\/p>\n This is going to destroy her life because she has been taught that any time bit of trauma or less than perfect childhood dooms her to ruin and horror. That she is now fundamentally maimed and incapable… she is not human anymore really, she is victim. That’s what they tell her, because that’s how they get their power.<\/p>\n \u201cI didn’t want anyone to find out my horrendous secret. It was hard work, to keep this facade from cracking, but I did it. I didn’t know what would happen if my friends found out, how they would react. I didn’t want to find out.\u201d – the full story<\/a> <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Think about that. What in the world would they have thought? Certainly they weren’t going to (I hope) disown her because she had been touched three or four times nine years ago. No, she was afraid they would start treating her differently…<\/p>\n And they would have.<\/p>\n Why? Because they have been fed the same diet of victim mythos. They would believe that anyone "like her" is now a deeply disturbed ticking time bomb of mental health that will need years of therapy to straighten out. That’s what they have been told… and the prophecy goes on to fulfill itself.<\/p>\n\n
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