Someone I have a lot of respect for on a mailing list recently spoke that using terms like “House” and other titles sometimes creates a distance between the person using it and others that is hard to cross and occasionally counter productive.<\/p>\n
Of course she is right… as she so often is \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
Anyway, I wound up riffing off a reply to it… not as an argument, because there is no debate here. I just wound up running with my thoughts on it. I figured I’d put it here. I have taken a moment to format it. Hit the [MORE] link if you need to and let’s go!<\/p>\n
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From: soulhuntre [mailto:soulhuntre@soulhuntre.com]<\/p>\n
Sent: Friday, January 31, 2003 6:03 PM<\/p>\n
To: <witheld><\/p>\n
Subject: “I have a dream” \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
I know that for me the distance is a tool. I am a “house” activist. I spent time speaking at the recent Ohio SMART specifically on the topic that we need MORE formal training houses in the community – that “market” forces will weed out the good from the bad… and that in a very real way competition will make it better for all of us.<\/p>\n
I spoke of the central concept that drives me with The Estate and still drives me: <\/p>\n
\nI want a submissive wearing out collar or mark to be able to go into any part, group or event anyplace in the world and have a fair number of the doms in that room to go “damn, where can I get me one of THOSE”.<\/b><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
I want to restore a value in service and training… build a brand identity and turn out a great product. If another group thinks we aren’t doing it right they can build their own brand.<\/p>\n
Because somewhere out there, right now, is an amazingly gifted servant… someone who can be a real work of art… and she is walking into a [[wp|BDSM]] group asking where the training is, where the owners are and where people like her GO…. maybe because she read Laura’s books and went “YES, I am not alone!”.<\/p>\n
She is walking into that group and finding out (like I did, like Flagg did, like [[SriC]] did) that the universal answer is “no place like that exists… that world is a fantasy and it can never be real”.<\/p>\n
\nBulls*t.<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
It isn\u2019t real now but it CAN be… oh, not the auctions and so on maybe for a long time… but the dedication, the friendly competition and the value in service. The standards, the recognition and the understanding of those needs.<\/p>\n
I know what most people think when I tell them I am part of a training house… I know because I can hear it in their voice when they try and make their witty comeback:<\/p>\n
\n“What? Like in the Marketplace or something?”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
And I LOVE watching them have no idea what to say when I look them in the eye and say…<\/p>\n
\n“Yes, something like that.”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
That distance is a challenge from me to the entire community. The challenge is this:<\/p>\n
I know you are out there, I know you think this is right… do you have what it takes to step into this circle and declare it?<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n
Soulhuntre
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