ed. note: it’s a given any extreme feminists reading this entry will have a cow. Flame away if you want… I don’t care \ud83d\ude42<\/i><\/p>\n
Well, later today I get a root canal… and that sucks. 4:00pm for the dentist, then 6:30 or so to my dojo for a night of (I think) workout hell. Hopefully the codeine will work and I can survive the evening without a huge problem till I get home and slip into coma.<\/p>\n
As I was waiting for the pain killer to kick in tonight I wound up surfing porn the way I do when I am bored and I came across a clip from one of the “Rough Sex” videos. I may or may not have mentioned these before… and I can’t find a link to tell you about them. In short form they are basically hardcore porn with a serious power differential twist. I won’t call it [[wp:BDSM]] though technically it fits into the top\/bottom area of that leaning heavily into humiliation with some breath play and mild face slapping.<\/p>\n
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The thing is, most of them aren’t all that impressive. Every now and then you come across a girl, or a scene, where the energy is just BANG<\/i><\/b> there and it is riveting… even though in the end it’s still just gonzo porn. It’s even more interesting because the male actors don’t really have a grasp on BDSM or topping – but they found these amazing girls who are so into this that they soak up the sexual energy coming from the men and just drop into a submissive mode and go into heat. That energy in turn tends to trigger the men.<\/p>\n
Personally, I am always fascinated by the freedom I see in some humiliation scenes. It’s not the act of humiliation that is useful to me – but the freedom that is associated with it. Someone who is capable\/willing\/consenting to be down there as someone temporarily beneath you is someone who is – temporarily – placing themselves in a space outside your normal ethics. You have much, much more freedom… you can ride the energy your normal impulses would repress and prevent. <\/p>\n
I’ve never really done more than toy with that edge myself so far – I’m not sure how to cross the line safely and come back when I am supposed to. What I do know is that there is seriously cool voodoo in there – I’ve tasted a little bit and I liked it.<\/p>\n
The insight here is not that energy edge – I’ve spoken about all that before. What is new is that maybe this is one of the ways to get to it. <\/p>\n
Interesting \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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