{"id":776,"date":"2001-03-07T04:10:08","date_gmt":"2001-03-07T04:10:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.soulhuntre.com\/items\/date\/2001\/03\/07\/take-my-wife-please-look-on-the-bright-side\/"},"modified":"2001-03-07T04:10:08","modified_gmt":"2001-03-07T04:10:08","slug":"take-my-wife-please-look-on-the-bright-side","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/legacyiamsenseiken.local\/2001\/03\/07\/take-my-wife-please-look-on-the-bright-side\/","title":{"rendered":"take my wife, please! – look on the bright side…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n
\n

Paula
\n Abdul: Cold Hearted<\/a><\/b><\/i><\/p>\n

He’s a cold-hearted snake
\n Look into his eyes
\n Oh oh oh
\n He’s been tellin’ lies
\n He’s a lover boy at play
\n He don’t play by rules
\n Oh oh oh
\n Girl don’t play the fool–no<\/i><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/table>\n

 <\/p>\n

As some of you might know, I frequent a number of mailing lists… though I
\n don’t have as much time in recent weeks as I do usually.<\/p>\n

In any case, one of the lists I had been on was DOMINANCEsubmission<\/a>.
\n An interesting list that I was eventually ejected from. <\/p>\n

That’s OK, I certainly support the rights of a list admin do do whatever they
\n want. Even if they seem to do it in bold, centered comic sans fonted type. Can
\n you say AOL? I can.<\/p>\n

Anyway, so shortly before I flamed someone who desperatly needed flaming I
\n participated in a thread on the topic of comitted relationships. Notably, on
\n their effect in a decision to pursue someone you are interested in.<\/p>\n

Obviously, this is a complex topic – and one I am not going to try and analyze
\n completely this entry – but in short the answer for me is that I will pursue
\n a relationship with someone who is "taken" as long as my pursuit meets
\n my internal criteria for ethics in both execution and intention.<\/p>\n

In any case, this thread was going on for a while, getting heated. Then I got
\n thrown off before I could respond to a particularly amusing response. Now normally
\n I wouldn’t feel right quoting a post from a list in another forum but I am making
\n an exception here because the response is directly to me not the list as a whole
\n and I have no other forum available.<\/p>\n

Here is a quote from a man who is obviously at the end of a very thin, frayed
\n piece of rope I think it is worth looking at it here \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n
\n

"This shit is going to get your ass killed some day. Over my
\n adult lifetime, I’ve had it with fucking snakes persuing my woman. (It’s
\n happened successfully twice.) Next time it occures in any serious way,
\n I’m acquiring a rifle and blowing his ass to hell. <\/i><\/p>\n

You might not respect a Dominant, but I bet you’d respect his shotgun
\n once placed up your ass." – name withheld to protect the authors
\n identity<\/i><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/table>\n

Hmmm.. now there are some issues happening there I think but I am not really
\n qualified to play therapist for this guys inner child. <\/p>\n

This man, like the poster who started the thread in question, clearly believes
\n there is some "brotherly" code of ethics that is supposed to keep
\n me from pursuing a relationship just because he happened to get there first
\n and plant his flag. <\/p>\n

Do these guys really see women as interchangable? Are they really under the
\n impression that all women are the same? I put it that way because the universal
\n response seems to be "go find yourself another woman, this one is mine!".<\/p>\n

Bullshit<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

It isn’t a matter of finding myself "another" woman, I want that<\/i><\/b>
\n one, specifically. Trust me, if I didn’t care about her specifically I wouldn’t
\n becauseing so much stress for any of us \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Ah well, I suppose all us snakes are on our own.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

On another note, Kimiko<\/a>
\n got her paperwork started… so six years after leaving her husband and moving
\n in with me she is finally going to be getting the divorce!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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